A new serious relationship, an engagement period or during the honeymoon are phases when your hormones assure you that your partner is God-given, that he can lift your mood at any time and that he simply has no flaws. Unfortunately, this hormonal effect will not last. 

Gian Gonzaga is a senior research scientist at "eHarmony Labs”, website specialized in love affairs. He is also a social psychologist who has been studying interpersonal relationships, especially love relationships for 21 years. With that kind of experience, we can freely say that he is a guru when it comes to love problems. Here are some of his tips that can help you to discern and to evaluate whether you want to start a serious relationship with someone or you’re just looking for some fun.

If you are often finishing the thoughts of your partner, or you’re saying the same thing at the same time as if reading each other's thoughts, you have, potentially, high-quality partner by your side. These situations give the impression that you know each other very well and that you have full understanding for each other. Gonzaga says that when two people understand each other, their lesser conflicts will not turn into big ones, because partners, in the end, figure out what they want to say to each other.

Physical attractiveness is important, but beware if that's all that draws you to him or her. Numerous studies have shown that the perception of physical attractiveness changes as partners become more connected on a psychological level, but that is not the case if it goes in the opposite direction. When it comes to long-term relationships, the mind is always more important than the body. “Physical appearance is important – you cannot find your mate repugnant and expect that to change”, Gonzaga says. He adds that it is better to have only a psychological connection and attraction, because as partners become more attracted to each other in this way, they may become and physically more attracted. 

You will probably hesitate to mention how many kids you want on your first date, but if you are planning a serious relationship don’t wait to long to bring up that subject. It is important that, at the very beginning, you share your views on faith, family, children and money, because they are good indicators of whether your relationship has sense and potential, or not. Core values are in all of us, but unfortunately, they are not equal. Therefore, they can provide a guarantee of relationship’s success or confirmation that the relationship has no future. 

You do not have to be the same or similar in everything. The differences are sometimes necessary and useful. For example, if one partner is very sociable, and the other is not, although he wants to be, sociable partner could be his best support and assist him in achieving the objectives for which the other partner never thought they could be achieved.