A man has four basic innate needs, and if a woman manages to meet them, he will fall in love with her, before he is even aware of it. 

“When a guy realizes, consciously or not, that you're ideal on all these levels, that's when he'll commit”, says Paul Dobransky, M.D., author of “The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love”

Strategy of falling in love comes down to four rules that women have to respect in order to become irreplaceable in man’s life. These rules are just some little things that will help you achieve a really important thing - that he is happy beside you and, if needed, that you are his constant optimist.

His primal desires resemble women's expectations. So, if you want him to fix something in the house, let him prove himself. He will not only feel more successful and useful, his brain will also perceive these minor repairs as "marking of territory".

For example, if you wear silk, you'll be very feminine to him, and if you let him touch you, he’ll certainly develop great affection towards you. If you like going out with your friends, then you must not bother him when he is watching a game on television. If he can go for a beer with his friends without having his mobile phone ringing every five minutes, he'll feel that he has finally found the "right" one. And if you both like to play mind games or to discuss about some “serious” topics, he’ll consider you as a smart “transmitter” of his, likewise, smart genes.


"Falling in love is a process of developing attachment, which happens when oxytocin floods the brain," says neurologist Alan Hirsch. To raise the level of attachment hormones, you just need to convince the man that you two just fit together. Groom in front of him because no one else can see you doing that, cook together, and when you two go shopping buy something that he likes. Cook before him, for him, without make up on you. You’ll deepen the intimacy, and he will cease thinking about your relationship and simply enjoy in it.


No matter how independent they are, women must create the feeling in a man that he is their protector. Ask him often about his opinion. Occupy him with “men” jobs as often possible, and say to him, for example, “I don't know what I would have done without you”.



Let him understand that you do not want to change him, because, for a man, that is a sign that you truly understand him and that you will not threaten his identity or freedom. Give him both mental and physical space. Do not force him to constantly spend time with you, and you will intrigue him even more.






When you two are together, and especially in the company of his friends, show him respect. This way, he is growing in the eyes of his friends, and you are growing in his eyes. If you save him with your charm in some awkward moment, he will definitely feel that he is in a relationship with the best girl in the world.